Anonymous asked: Okay. Well, I am madly in love with my boyfriend and we've been together for almost a year and a half. But, this relationship wasn't always perfect. We met when I was 16 and he was 24. I told him, "I just want to have fun" and he assumed, fooling around a little, but obviously not getting too close to a minor. Though, oddly my family liked and approved of him.. He was worried about the reaction he'd get from hi own family. So, shortly after on/off dating for a couple months, he left me and went on tour with his idol band, MXPX and slept with a few sluts. Of course, you can see how this story is going. He broke my heart and left me cold turkey for half a year. After that, everything came crashing down in his life, he got fired from the band and had to restart his life from scratch. He came back to me and said that he was foolish to ignore what God was giving, since he'd been asking for me all of his life. Anyways, we had some hard times and got through them, but to this day
I still can't forget what he did to me and can't wipe the nightmares from my mind, of him being with whores. I knew I would have to deal with this eventually, because I was always more mature than the people of my age and I would want to have an older more experience guy (not necessarily sexually, but obviously it would be inevitable.) After a few months of being back together, I gave him my virginity, and have been dealing with this sexual frustration ever since. I don't know how to move on and allow our relationship to grow. Please help.
He said: You said “I just want to have fun” as a 16 year old girl. No shit you want to have fun. That statement is generally reserved for people aged to the point where wanting a frivolous relationship is something that needs to be stated up front. Listen to yourself. On one hand you say you are more mature and need a more mature guy, while on the other you are obviously just a naive little girl. You understand how contrived it is to say you want a more mature guy at your age? Fuck. Women my age don’t even want to date guys my age. That shit never changes. He went out and had fun and slept with other girls, then when he comes back and lets you know you were always his back up plan is when you decide to have sex with him? Do yourself a series of favors. Break up with him, find a nice boy your own age (or don’t), and take some time to be young and figure out who you are. It isn’t too late for you to start over before you make another bunch of terrible decisions.
She said: You’re under 18 and sleeping with a guy who tours with bands. I think it’s safe to say you were a little naive to think that he wouldn’t fuck other girls while out on tour, but hey, you’re young. So your story is that homeboy went out on tour after running hot & cold with you, hooked up with a bunch of other girls, and then came crawling back once shit fell apart. Sounds like you’ve got yourself a real winner there. My best advice? Get tested ASAP and break it off with him. You’re probably never going to get over the fact that he was with other women and the resentment that you have is only going to get stronger. Find someone closer to your own age who didn’t lose their virginity when you were still playing with Barbies.
